Marriage is one of the most important decisions of our life just like education, career etc. As a matter of fact, it is THE most important decision. For instance if you are unhappy/dissatisfied with your current job, you can always change the job or go for higher studies. Whereas in case of marriage, it is not that easy. Marriage is a common thread which connects so many people apart from the couple. By marrying someone, you are sharing yourself with someone for the rest of your life which is a big thing.
So this decision needs to be taken with utmost carefulness. There used to be a time when marriages were decided even before the couples could start walking on their own feet! Husbands could see face of their wives directly on the first night! Vice versa too! Marriages were decided not basis of likings of the couple but of the 2 families. I can understand the logic that family members knew each other well so they felt it better to fix a marriage prior. But what about the poor couple? Of course, we don’t see these kinds of things now-a-days much.
I being a typical management student, will start from starting. Marriages are of two types: 1) Arranged marriage & 2) Love marriage. Both have their pros and cons! But somehow, I still go with the second option. Reason is simple. It is good to have a known enemy rather than an unknown!
Generally you would have seen elders saying arrange marriages are better because we know the family of the other person very well. That’s pretty much ok but is it necessary that their son/daughter will be as good as the family? And even if, he/she is good, is it written on a stamp paper that they will enjoy each other’s company for the rest of their lives just because their parents THINK the same is going to happen? Parents have obviously honest motive behind arrange marriage but I quite often see this system of arrange marriage not working. Reason is simple. Now-a-days people don’t have that much of a patience to bear unnecessary demands/orders/bull@#*t of the other person. And I don’t think it is wrong either. Everyone has full right to live their life in their own way. You can’t expect them to surrender to your orders just because he/she is your husband/wife. This is the thing that I don’t like in arrange marriages. It should have been actually called ‘Adjust’ marriages! Why to adjust? Is it a 3 hour journey from one station to another? No. It’s a lifelong journey. Then why not spend it with a passenger of your own choice?
The worst thing in the life is to have regret. Never let your feelings go unsaid or unheard. I am not a love guru. I have full time job to earn money! But what I urge to every youth is to stand up for yourself, not literally but give your love a respectable amount of time and effort.
Arrange marriage is not at all a bad concept. But if you love someone, at least make sure that the person also is aware about the same. Blunder would occur if two kept on waiting for some angel to come in between and help them. It’s not going to happen dude.
If you don’t like someone, no need to have pity on him/her. That decision taken under pressure/hurry/casualness can affect your life majorly. You may get divorce and you would never gather enough strength to marry someone again or you may also find prefect life partner in that person. It is all about what YOU FEEL. I expect when a person reaches over 20, he has that level of maturity to decide his/her partner. No qualification is required to do screening of your partner. It may be possible that your parents would not like him/her but if you think that it’s not worth missing, go for it. At the end of the day, one should live life with no regrets.
Cheers! Happy Searching! 🙂